Life of women starts with struggle and ends with a struggle. From the time she comes into this harsh world from that particular time she starts to be dependent on others and that dependency lasts forever. How man so easily says woman work or life is easy, if they begin to count our struggles in life pages of our struggles will remain unturned as these are numerous in number. Living as a girl is the first struggle, society even in some cases family doesn’t accept girl child even though today’s world notion is different we can do best and better the task that a man is doing, but old generation, society pulls girls back.
If a girl has gained high qualification, but still in society she is merely a girl whose feet are tied with rope that she can’t untie. A girl’s life is tough but it becomes miserable when she enters into the relationship of marriage. It doesn’t apply in every case but in the majority of the cases. The love, care, affection, support she receives from her parents cannot be received from her in-laws. When a girl decides to step into the relationship of marriage, she expects a bundle of good things from her spouse but in the end, she gets nothing but a huge disappointment and she ends it by saying no man can love a woman more than her father, and she wipes her tears. If she is fed up with that relationship, she still gives chances over chances with a hope that one day will come when she will have good days. She leaves her parental home only for just
one person with whom she wishes to live her whole life. But her husband brings her to his house with a hash tag as a wife but in reality, as a maid and especially for the sake of his family.
As it is explicit and framed by society that a girl’s parental home is not her own, but when she enters into the house of her husband, she assumes that this is her real house where she can live peacefully and where her decisions will be upheld. But instead of that what she gets in reply, is this house or all these things bought by your father and she starts finding or searching her house and at the end she finds it and that is the graveyard where she can live without these taunts and all that. When a daughter’s father is asked who is there to take care or up keep you in your grey days they used to put their head down as they have no answer to the same question, they have forgotten that they also need someone in the old days. Are these privileges only meant for the parents of a son, and by this connotation which parent wouldn’t want a male child. Allah has given us designation as a mother as we are the one who can manage the affairs of the family with a calm mind as we are stronger, having the capacity to engage in a multiple task in a one go, having the quality of being emotional. However, this emotional aspect is seen as a mark of weakness and it is said that women are drama queens, attention seekers but this is actually one of the ways to cope up with the stress, to build empathy so the relationship can be improved.
Men used to say that today’s world is inclining more towards the concept of feminism if we go into its roots feminism is the result of patriarchy and the harsh world. Our Islam emphasizes the concept of equality of men and women. Various verses of the Quran highlight the same, verse (49:13) ” Does not make any distinction on the basis of sex and believes in human equality”: O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and female and made into the nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye you may despise each other).
Another verse (4:32) And do not wish for that by which Allah has made some of you exceed others. For men is a share of what they have earned, and for women is a share of what they have earned. And ask Allah of his bounty.
In-deed Allah is ever, of all things, knowing. This verse underscores that both men and women have a share in what they earn and possess, emphasizing economic equality.
In surah Noor verse 30 and 31: Allah ordered men and women both to lower their gaze and guard their modesty.
At the end , let us (women) live an honorable, dignified and peaceful life. Be independent, prioritize your values, work for your empowerment and don’t get stuck with the hope that someone will empower you. It’s inner you who can empower or uplift yourself, Respect yourself in order to gain respect from others. Let us (women) try our best to overcome these challenges and lead a dignified and respectful life.
